Cristina Scelzo
28, Counselor
Cristina Scelzo
28, Counselor
My name is Cristina Scelzo, I am 28 years old and I am a counselor. In my work, my task is to help people, especially adolescents or young men and women, to understand themselves and to manifest their potential. The approach I use is based on the human relationship between two individuals, and by "human" I mean made up of active, honest and non-judgmental listening. By unconditionally accepting the people who speak to me, my goal is to help them accept themselves as they are, knowing that there is no prototype of human being and that everyone has unique features that, if accepted with respect, can be exploited and expressed in a positive way, allowing the realization of their authenticity.
For me, being a woman means being free to choose what I want to do and how I want to do it, clearly respecting others.
Being a woman, today, to me means being able to be the mother of my child, the wife of a person that is completely different from me, and doing the job I love. "Being a woman" however, is a concept that I perceive in the moment the world distinguishes what a man can do from what a woman can't do and vice versa.
Society is evolving, but when the stereotype comes out of people's minds and gestures in an unconscious but convinced way, or when laws confirm this disparity, that's when I realize that I am a woman as well as a person.
Sisterhood, on the other hand, is a term that is teaching me many things in the last period.
I notice that supporting another woman gives me such a sense of lightness that sometimes I wonder why this isn't a more common practice. Granted that I feel like I still have a lot to learn, I think one of the most important lessons from the difficulties or turning points in my life is to accept my authenticity. My ideas, my values, my goals don't have to be accepted by everyone and that's okay. I can't stop just because all the people I ask for advice don't share my ideas. Many people have and will always have different or opposite ideas, but this does not indicate that I am the wrong one, but that I am and we are all humanly different.
Everyone brings their own personal baggage and authenticity to the world,
so we might as well value what belongs to us and makes us unique rather than trying to conform to what we think is a more acceptable version of us. If we are ourselves, if we accept ourselves, we will find our place in this world. And we also give ourselves permission to evolve into who we really are.
